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Real Talk

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So, I was reading a police docket today and I read the report of a man who was arrested for simple assault, harassment, and false imprisonment. This is a case of domestic abuse, I’ve personally met this man and his partner and I’ve seen his controlling, vicious ways. It makes my heart feel heavy and sad when I hear about someone who has become a victim of domestic abuse.

There are multiple forms of domestic abuse, physical, emotional, verbal, financial. If you are with someone and they demand that you consult them before you go out, restrict who you can see, they hit you, they control your money, they call you names, or they guilt trip you; these are some ways an abuser exerts power over their victims.

I know that victims of domestic violence often die, that’s the only way they escape their abuse. I want to give readers resources in case they come upon a situation where they or someone they know and love needs help.

Resources:

http://www.thehotline.org/resources/ (1−800−799−7233)

https://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline 800.656.HOPE (4673)

http://www.ncadv.org

These websites and their numbers, offer many resources for victims of domestic abuse, and some websites listed include specialized resources for members of the LQBTQ+ community.

Domestic violence is a serious issue that needs to be discussed and dealt with.

There are people that can help, you don’t have to be afraid anymore.

-Jane

How You Love

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I think as a growing mentor and activist to the feminist community, I need to touch down on a few of many topics. Today I want to discuss healthy relationships. I read an article that suggested to know your value, standards and worth then you need to enter an unhealthy relationship where someone treats you like “shit.” The author literally and seriously suggested dating an abusive partner so you can appreciate being treated well when you move on.

How can someone honestly suggest to any other human that they should enter a relationship with someone who is toxic and dangerous? The risks involved are mind-blowing. A person in such a relationship could experience mental, physical and emotional abuse.

If you date someone who tells you that you aren’t good enough or that no one wants you, you could start to believe it. You would feel worthless and unworthy. The author suggests that you fall in love with a person such as described,  then get your heart broken. Then you’ll heal and find sone one who treats you well. 

Um.. no. Do NOT put yourself through that abuse. It is possible to lay out standards of what you deserve and you will find someone worthy. I promise. 

Do not degrade yourself. Love yourself.

-Jane